7 Ways to Avoid Getting Angry

This is a post on 7 ways to avoid getting angry. It’s a helpful list, if I do say so myself. That’s because I am someone who gets angry easily. Or at least I used to be.

PS: Don’t get discouraged by me suggesting meditation! Just give me a shot. And give it a shot.

Without further ado, here is how to avoid getting angry.

How to Avoid Getting Angry – 7 Strategies that Work!

Here are my 7 hot tips on how to avoid getting angry.

1. Meditate

I’ve been meditating using a new meditation method. I did it for one week straight. And I didn’t think much of it.

But then I couldn’t understand why I was so calm and chill all of a sudden. My emotions would not get the best of me anymore. Someone commented this on one of my posts, and I realized that they were valid. Like, you could do anything to piss me off and I was cool as a cucumber.

Then finally it hit me: it’s because I have been meditating.

How do I meditate?

Meditation is difficult if you do the whole “don’t think any thoughts” technique. News flash: even the wise gurus say you can’t just not think anything. My new method of meditation is something I learnt from Kyle Cease. He says that all you need to do is sit down and close your eyes. When your thoughts pop up, validate them. See them, and accept them. Tell them that they are okay thoughts.

In fact, meditating doesn’t even have to mean that you don’t have thoughts at all, and you keep pushing them away. Meditation is the perfect time to sit down and think all your thoughts. Let me put it this way: You wake up half an hour earlier and sit down just to allow all your thoughts some screen time. Don’t you think they won’t show up during the day? Because you already let them run about in the morning.

Another thing I like to do in meditation is to arm myself with positive thoughts for every negative thought. I’ll be honest – whenever I get negative thoughts, I spiral into this sad mood. But when I meditate, I make sure to counter-attack negative thought with a solid and logical positive thought.

This exercise has helped me to actually talk myself out of a depressive cycle because now I have practice!

2. Work out to avoid getting angry

In order to avoid getting angry, work those muscles!

If you are a known angry person, you need to have some sort of workout routine in your every day life. I’ve noticed that angry people usually have a lot of energy in them that needs to get out. Working out gives you that platform to get your energy out so you don’t dump it on someone else.

Keeping your energy locked in your muscles can cause angry lashing out that we don’t want. I’ll say it again, if you are prone to anger fits, work out. I don’t care if you hate sweating or anything – work out.

3. Remember that anger is valid

Remember that person who commented on my post? When they commented, I was totally cool with it. Because I realized that someone else being angry doesn’t have to affect me at all. As long as they aren’t physically violating me, I’m good.

Anger is not bad, guys. It’s an internal compass for when your boundaries are being violated. And it’s fine. Anger doesn’t have to push us towards words or actions that are hurtful to others. Next time you are angry, take a deep breath and remind yourself that what matters is how you react, and you don’t have to react with energy and malice. Be cool. Be calm.

4. Anyone can do anything

In addition to my point above, this is something that I learnt recently. Anyone can do literally anything and it’s okay. It’s okay.

You can comment on someone’s post because you are angry. And it’s fine.

You can do anything. And I can do anything. We can all do as we please. I don’t have to think of you when I say something. And you don’t have to think of me.

Just make sure you aren’t hitting me, because then you will be catching these hands, so stay warned.

5. No one is the boss

Remember this in order to avoid getting angry: no one is in charge, not really.

The truth is that no one is in charge. Even your parents are just kids who had kids. They don’t know what they are doing in life. They have two basic instincts: to feed you and to shelter you. That’s it.

A few days ago, my dad got me so mad. He told my brother that I wouldn’t help him out. And that’s not true. I always help when my dad asks me to. Him saying that made me so mad, but it also hurt. How can you do all you can for someone but they turn around and call you a selfish person?

My literal goal in life has always been to be a good person. But I guess it was time for a new goal in life. Because he really shattered my heart. I realized that no matter how hard I try to come off as a good person, people always look at others like they have the capacity to be good or bad to them.

It’s time for me to stop treating my parents like they are angels and to realize that no one is the boss in life. I have every right to have my anger and eat it too. I can be angry at anyone. But not because anyone is better than me. Because we are all equal.

6. Understand manipulation

Manipulation is something that everyone should read up on. There are so many manipulative people out there. Take it from me, who is an introvert and doesn’t get out there much. I have been a target for so many manipulative people, and they got me. They got me good.

Manipulative people want you to get angry so you can prove yourself to them. They will say the opposite of who you are and what you are, so that you will work hard to protect your identity. Remember the bit about my dad I mentioned up there? If he was being manipulative, I would have stormed over and yelled at him for ever saying I was selfish yet I helped him so many times in the past!

But I didn’t. Because I know how manipulative people work. They want you to prove yourself to them. And most of the time, they benefit. So, all the angry people out there, remember that you would make a perfect target for a manipulative person.

7. Don’t get defensive in order to avoid getting angry

In addition to my point above, I advise angry people not to get defensive. This is because you might be playing right into a trap. Manipulative people like to get your underwear in a twist. They love to watch you squirm to defend yourself while they remain calm.

Dear angry people, remember this – the calm person wins the argument. I don’t care who made the best points – the one who remained calm is the one who won the whole game. Being angry shows that you are not sure about yourself.

Remember that no matter what anybody says about you, only you know the truth of who you are.

Angry people – don’t get defensive. It only makes you seem like the bad guy.

And that’s it for how to avoid getting angry! If this post resonates with you, scroll down to the comments and share with me how you control your anger! I would love to hear from you.

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