How to Truly Deeply and Completely Love Yourself

I’ve written about how to love yourself so many times before. But I keep having to update these posts because I learn how to love myself deeper and truer.

The answers always come from within. For example, while journaling, I began to understand why I keep trying to make people feel special. It’s because I want them to do the same for me, and as I kept scribbling in my journal, I realized that I didn’t believe it was possible for me to do those things for myself. I felt like it wasn’t authentic.

Journaling is truly amazing for self love. It helps you to understand the kind of person that you are. It helps you to rediscover the mindsets and mentalities you constructed as a child. It helps you to revisit and edit them to suit the person you are now. Because the mentalities and walls we built as children are not accurate to the people we are now.

Journaling is just one of the tips listed in this post on how to truly deeply and completely love yourself.

Keep reading to discover what I learnt in my mission to love myself.

7 Ways to Love Yourself

1 . See yourself as a human

I know the problem with me was that I saw myself as a failed woman. I wanted to be skinnier. That’s when I’d be worthy of being alive. How could I live my entire life not being skinny?

I always wanted to be prettier and more attractive. That’s when I would be deserving.

But then I realized that, before I’m a woman, I’m a human being. And human beings are worthy no matter what they look like. They are worthy of basic human rights. They get to be treated like the awesome, awesome people that they are.

2 . Fix your definition of love

Whew, I had a lot to learn before I could love myself! I didn’t know the definition of love!

All I knew was that if somebody found you attractive and then chose to be with you, then that was love. To be honest, I didn’t understand self love at all. How could you love yourself when the whole point of love was someone finding you attractive?

Of course, now I see that I needed to learn and grow as a person in order to love myself.

Love means pure acceptance. Love is not limited to romantic attraction. Love is a pure feeling that you feel when you know you accept something in its entirety.

That’s why self love is possible. It’s when you accept yourself in your entirety. It is when you honor your presence and choose to hold space for yourself to grow and evolve.

Self love is possible because you choose to see your flaws and your faults and be OKAY with them anyway.

3 . Do the things that make you happy

Another thing in the journey to love yourself is to do the things that make you happy. This has a profound effect in the self love journey. That’s because it increases your vibration. It makes you feel like life can and will get better.

Stop denying yourself the things you love. Actively bring home to yourself the things that inspire joy in you.

This step doesn’t need to be repeated over and over because soon you learn that the true happiness comes from understanding that joy is in your hands. You have the power to just BE and when you just BE then that is the human experience that we all came here for.

4 . Do a lot of journaling

I say this a lot. Journaling is so underrated. People just don’t do it enough.

Journaling is pretty much self therapy. It lets you open up to yourself. It lets you recognize and acknowledge your feelings instead of stuffing them down.

Journaling helps you to get deep into your mind and recognize patterns. It helps you to understand the mindsets that govern you and how they can be useless and even dangerous.

A life without introspection doesn’t have a lot of evolving and growing going on. Be sure to include journaling in your self love mission.

5 . Meditate a lot

Meditation is hard. Yeah, it really is. It’s extremely difficult to do. And that’s all the more reason that you should!

I’m a fan of guided meditation. You can find tons of videos on youtube that will provide prompts for you to follow so you can relax your mind.

However, I recently found Kyle Cease on youtube. He’s an awesome life coach and a big advocate for meditation. He recommends “sitting in silence”, and it’s a great way to meditate.

Ask yourself how you feel. Ask yourself what’s going in your life and what you need.

Feel your emotions as they come up and accept them. Be okay with whatever emotion comes up.

Meditation releases the answers that are trapped inside of you. It’s a long process to master meditation but once you do, you will find answers coming to you that you had no idea you could come up with.

Meditation facilitates evolving, and evolving brings about self love.

6 . Validate yourself through writing

This is one of my favorite ideas for self love.

I have a separate journal dedicated to validating myself. I write myself love letters and all the things I wish someone would tell me. Like how awesome I am and how I want to make me happy every single day.

Believe it or not, the brain feels like someone is actually telling you those things. it’s a perfect way to hack the brain and make you feel good. Not only that though, it really truly has a positive effect on you.

Try it out, and learn to love yourself more!

7 . Look beyond your physical attributes

I’ll be completely honest with you. The only reason why I cared about being perfect was so I could be attractive to other people. I wanted to get skinnier and I wanted to look prettier because I wanted guys to look at me and find me attractive and love me.

Sure, being attractive is important. But remember that I now know the true definition of love. Love is not limited to finding someone attractive and wanting to be romantically involved with them.

Love is about pure acceptance. Taking a person as they are. Accepting their flaws and not trying to change them.

When I look in the mirror and frown because I wish I was better looking, I remind myself that I am a human. I don’t even need to look amazing for someone to love me. I am lovable and capable of loving.

I hope this post helps you to learn how to deeply truly completely love yourself. I keep finding new ways to deepen this love that I have for myself. It really helps to journal and meditate. This ensures that my answers come from within. I get all these downloads/revelations that catapult me into greater self love heights.