How to Be Self-Partnered Like Emma Watson

A lot of us are pretty disconnected from the self. For some people it’s pretty bad, but for others it would be really easy to get into a self-partnership. Some of us need to go deep within and start healing those mindsets that make us feel inadequate, unloveable, unworthy, low self-esteem and the like.  

Being self-partnered like Emma Watson is going to mean that you are going to have to be there for yourself. A lot of people rely on significant others to do things for them. Whether it’s talking on the phone for them, ordering their meals, paying for their groceries or in general just to do what they can’t do because they lack the confidence to do it.

You’re going to have to support yourself and love and nurture your own self. We can’t stand being alone with ourselves. There are times when I’d find myself completely alone and it would feel suffocating, almost scary. I realized that I would have to confront myself, look in the mirror and accept that this being was in fact, me.

What does self-partnering feel like?

There are people out there who grow up completely connected to their being, and so are wholly self-partnered. For me, I have to fight to get to the ultimate form of self-partnering. Self-partnering is a beautiful feeling of being connected to your being. It involves being your own best friend, your own pillar and solid rock. How are these things possible? It all comes in the form of having some healthy mindsets in place.

How to be Self-Partnered Like Emma Watson

A lot of these activities are stuff you might already know. However, remember that the key is to do all these activities with INTENTION. The intention to walk within the walls of your SELF and to heal and nurture any emotional wounds. So, let’s get into how to be self-partnered like Emma Watson:

1 | Don’t look for love elsewhere

As human beings, we are made to function perfectly fine within our own selves. We are made to digest on our own, move on our own, and deal with feelings on our own. Our brains are perfectly capable of sending those electric neurons all over the body to communicate with all our organs!

We need to be the source of our own love. The problem is that most of us hate ourselves. We can’t stand ourselves. Treat yourself with love and kindness. I mean, why not? Pour more love and attention to yourself. Take care of your body. Treat yourself. Do what you love. Increase your energy frequency.

2 | Discover the true self

How to be self-partnered like Emma Watson? You need to go on a date with yourself. Because you’re technically dating yourself. So, what are your interests and hobbies? Your favorite color? What do you like to do on a Sunday? Do you have a temper?

A lot of people don’t really know what they like. Their interests are just absorbed from their significant others, friends, family, or from their favorite TV show character. Sit down with yourself and ask about what you like. Who are you when there’s no one around? What is your favorite song?

3 | Deliberate self therapy

Let’s face it—a lot of us need therapy. We have bad self-programming from childhood. Maybe we were neglected, or abused. We have poor coping mechanisms. We can’t handle surprise emotions in the form of disasters, accidents, breakups, stress and tension.

We don’t know what to do with our negative emotions. We feel unworthy but proceed to self-medicate with harmful behaviors. We seek love and validation from whoever shows us the least attention. We feel unloved.

You can subscribe to a life coach. They are the best. There are plenty of free life coaches on YouTube that I enjoy watching. There is a YouTube video for every sort of situation you might be going through. Journaling is also important for self-therapy.

4 | Journaling

Self-partnering comes with a lot self-talk. Talking to the self. One of the ways this is possible is through journaling. Sometimes things sound different in our minds. It’s always one of two extremes: our thoughts are either making a mountain out of a mole hill, or the opposite. Diminishing the hurt and pain. In order to express yourself in simple terms, write them down in a journal. Record your feelings and study them. Trace them back to your origins and fix them at the root.

Journaling is also great for gratitude. I have my trusty gratitude journal so I can revel in the warm feeling of knowing that I have so many good things going for me. I also have a manifestation journal where I can practice scripting the things that I want into my life. Scripting is a method used in the Law of Attraction where you write down what you want as if you already have it. For example: Thank you, universe, for giving me a job. (It works every time!)

5 | Practice positivity

Before I decided to give positivity a try, I was such a negative person. I enjoyed my negativity and could not thrive without it. I loved having a victim mentality and believing that life was happening to me, and not for me. I was at an all time low when I decided that, hey why don’t I try this positivity thing? It was great, and I’ve never looked back since.

Being positive can be very hard. Why would you want to be positive when you hate yourself and hate your life? You can’t stand yourself. You abandoned yourself a long time ago and you loathe the kind of person you are. The thing is, you can’t live like this. You can’t hate the person you had to become because of what happened to you. You need to give yourself a chance, and fight for yourself for once. It’s not easy, but you can start with fighting negative thoughts with positive ones!

6 | Fix unhealthy belief systems and mindsets

Remember when I talked of having a victim mentality? Ugh, I have to shudder looking back at that life. We have many such mentalities that need to be scraped off. People pleasing? It has no space in self-partnership.

One of my favorite approaches to getting into a healthy mindset is telling myself: Don’t say anything negative or bad about me, or to me! I mean, why does my mind have to be my enemy? Why does my mind always come up with bad things to say about me? I had to train my mind to say ONLY GOOD THINGS about myself! I can’t be against my own damn self! We have to work together with our minds in order to create a healthy inner environment. So, this is the tip on how to be self-partnered like Emma Watson: TELL YOURSELF YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL! (EVEN IF YOU DON’T MEAN IT!)

7 | Deal with your emotions instead of avoiding them

Letting go of emotions is a good way to practice emotional freedom. However, a lot of us don’t do it the right way! In fact, if you let go of your emotions the wrong way, you will be adding more harm and throwing your alignment out of order. Letting go works when you consciously feel the emotions of guilt, shame, anger, and finally choose to let go in order to save your inner peace.

Ignoring negative emotions is known as self avoidance. Don’t ignore and set aside your feelings. Don’t abandon yourself. Accept your feelings. Name them. Feel them. Them consciously decide what to do with them. Don’t numb your pain with food, drugs, or any harmful behavior. Our emotions are divine. They are unique and there is no need to hate your emotions. Feel them, and let go. Fix your emotional pain, come within and sort out your feelings.

8 | Don’t take things too seriously

Honestly? The best way to learn to be self-partnered like Emma Watson is not take anything too seriously. Someone didn’t text you back in 3 minutes? That’s okay. Rationalize and move on. You got stood up on? That’s okay, you probably dodged a bullet. Stop being fatalistic. This life is ours to enjoy and love. Life is a gift from God, or the universe (or any higher power you believe in). What if life is the reward you got for being loved and blessed?

When I stopped being frustrated over everything small thing, my life began to change for the better. It doesn’t happen all at once. It takes you trying your best to leave behind any toxic traits and wanting to be a better person. It happens after trial and error. It happens after failing. It happens after you realize that you have disappointed yourself and want to do better.

Choosing to be self-partnered is a decision you make after going within and learning the inner-workings of your SELF. The self is a sacred thing that we all have to nourish and enrich. It is also a journey of supporting and nurturing yourself. Being there for yourself. Creating healthy mindsets to aid you in living a fulfilled and enriched life.