How to Recognize an Abusive Relationship

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A lot of women are victims of abuse. If you are facing abuse, please reach out and talk to someone. You do not deserve to stay in an abusive relationship. I wrote this article to help people to figure out how to recognize an abusive relationship.

An abusive relationship is characterized by discord, confusion and can lead to depression. Abuse can be categorized into two types; physical and emotional. No one should remain in an abusive relationship. No one is entrusted with the task of “fixing” anyone.

Relationships should involve lots of growth, sharing and all-round positivity. Your partner should be supportive, uplifting and ready to recognize their own flaws. An abusive relationship is worth nothing, except to teach you never to get into one again. Learn how to recognize an abusive relationship.

How to Recognize an Abusive Relationship

Here are 5 ways on how to recognize an abusive relationship:

1. You don’t feel happy

We all know that relationships are filled with both ups and downs. However, sometimes a relationship is just down-hill through-out. Such relationships are toxic. You can’t be with a person that has you on edge all the time. You’re always walking on eggshells around them. You hate to set them off. They make you sad more times than happy. It’s easy to give more value to the good than the bad, but no one deserves to feel like absolute crap every day because of one person. This is one way to figure out how to recognize an abusive relationship.

2. Manipulation

Why do people get manipulated over and over again? This is because manipulation is meant to set you up for trickery and betrayal. It’s easy to find yourself back in manipulative situations if you aren’t being alert and mindful. It’s easy to get swept away into new relationships only to be stabbed in the back later on. Manipulative people make you think you’re always the one to be blamed. They confuse you about the things you do and they find ways to be the victim.  Looking for manipulative tendencies is another way to figure out how to recognize an abusive relationship.

3. They alienate you from friends and family

Abusers alienate you from your normal social circles by refusing you to talk to your friends and family. This is a tactic to make you independent on them so you have no one to turn to when they decide to get really abusive. They can take away your phone and go through your messages. Friends and family are important. They are way more important than someone who was once a stranger to you.

4. It’s fast-paced

Abusive relationships have a tendency to be fast-paced. Watch out for abusive people that are confessing their love and planning weddings with in the first few weeks of your meeting. They get you to trust them and appreciate their feelings and honesty. They make you put in tangible effort into the relationship and yet all they have to show for their efforts is empty confessions of feelings. Such people are capable of having more power over you in the relationship.

5. They start arguments and are emotionally intense

Abusive people pick fights over the smallest things. They get angry and have bad tempers. In healthy relationships, people find it easy to put away anger for their loved ones. Not abusers, though. They will scream and argue and find ways to make everything your fault. You will find yourself apologizing for things you didn’t do. Watch out for this in order to figure out how to recognize an abusive relationship.

Don’t stay in an abusive relationship

We find it easy to overlook other’s flaws. We put a lot of value in the little good in our abusive relationships. Relationships are not meant to be filled with tension and negativity. If you find yourself unhappy and filled with stress and depression, you have to leave. There are other people out there who can treat you well. Besides, it’s better to be alone than with an abuser. I hope this article helps you to learn how to recognize an abusive relationship.

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