In this post, I will be talking about how to stop being an angry parent. First of all, I’m not a parent. However, I do know how I’d want my parents to treat me. I think parenting a child is a huge responsibility.
Being angry and lashing out is something that I used to do some time ago. But now, I learnt to control my anger and learn not to show it out.
In addition to that, I have some really angry parents who do things that hurt me. I wish I could tell them how to treat me or tell them when they are pushing on my boundaries. But my parents kind of suck, if I do say so myself.
If I tell them about something I feel they should change when talking to me, they make sure they amp it up. I mean, what’s with that? So, yeah, I have some suggestions for angry parents.
How to Stop Being an Angry Parent
Here are some of my tips for angry parents.
1 . Don’t dump your anger on your kids
Some parents think that their children are their punching bags. They think that their anger won’t traumatize their kids. But let me tell you something – your raging bull anger gets stuck in your children’s brains and it has the capacity to make them believe that the people who love them are supposed to be angry at them. You are causing harmful connections in your child’s brain.
In fact, parents should not show their weaknesses to their children. Children can get psychologically disturbed if you so much as cry in front of them. So, be ware of permanently traumatizing your children.
2 . Your kids don’t have a responsibility to do what you think you had them for
Ask yourself, Why did I have this child? If you have a solid answer like, to help me, or to make me proud, then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. I know you had a kid. But just know that that kid has its own agency and it doesn’t want to do what you want for it.
Your children don’t really owe you anything. If anything, you owe them everything because you made a huge decision to bring a human into this world. Before you think of telling your kid to respect you, make sure you respect them first.
Children don’t know much, and if you are an angry parent and expect obedience form your kids, you are being extremely unfair.
How are children supposed to know how to be emotionally healthy? It is you who must display perfection in terms of emotional execution.
3 . Try to reduce your anger in general
I have written some articles on how to reduce anger. You can check them out below. If you are an angry parent, then you are an angry person in general. Your children are still human beings and deserve to be treated with respect. In fact, your children need you to control your anger more than your boss and coworkers.
Your children are a blank slate, innocent, and you go and program them to be afraid of you. You prove to them that people who love them, must get angry at them. Then, when they find a partner when they are grown up, they expect to be treated like crap in order to feel loved.
- How to Stop Being Angry for No Reason
- How to Control Anger Outbursts
- How to Stop Being Angry at Yourself
4 . Be kinder and loving to your children
In order to be the opposite of an angry person, you have to be kinder and loving to your kids. The more love you show your kids, the less you are getting angry at them. Be more forgiving and lenient on your children. They are here for the first time, and it is not their fault if they don’t live up to your expectations.
Be less angry parents
Be less angry. It’s alright to get angry. But you don’t need to show it to your innocent children. You don’t have to do anything when you get angry. It’s okay to forgive and let things go. It’s a good idea to let go of your anger, especially when it comes to your kids. I hope this helps with how to stop being an angry parent.
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