How to Stop Being Mad at Your Significant Other

A few days ago, I was mad at my significant other. It was over a difference of opinions, but it later morphed into a bigger problem and then one or both of us got really mad.

This post is about how to stop being mad at your significant other. Please keep in mind that I am not a therapist or a marriage counselor and my blog posts are not a substitute for therapy. I simply hope to help others with my experience.

That said, how do we stop being mad at a significant other? Why do we get mad in the first place? Is it wrong? Does someone have to apologize? Do you have to break up?

By the way, if you are in a physically abusive relationship, this post is probably not for you. I do not condone nor support domestic abuse and I recommend trying to get out of such a situation. No one deserves that at all.

Also, keep in mind that arguments do happen in relationships. It is not the end of the world. The two of you might be a perfect match, but you don’t have the same brains and there is always going to be some disagreement.

How to Stop Being Mad at Your Significant Other

Here is where I give you some of the things that work for me when I am mad at a significant other. First, I provide some activities to do to distract you, or help you blow off some steam. Then in the next section, it will be some things to think about to cool down your anger.

What to do when you are mad at your significant other

One thing I remind myself of over and over again is that anger doesn’t have to be violent and hurtful. In fact, the thing I do first is to take some space and time in solitude for myself. I allow myself to think, but I try not to over think some things.

After that, I try to work off that steam. I do some workouts, because I know it really works to bring down my anger. I try not to think about how my partner hurt me. I try to distract myself by doing some writing or creating some digital characters. I try to focus on me.

It’s hard to avoid pithy remarks or silence, but I try be normal. Of course, sometimes I let them know that I am hurt, and we try to work it out, but sometimes the anger persists anyway.

There is always something that can help you to stop feeling angry. You can regroup and figure it out.

Things to remember when mad at a significant other

These are a few thoughts I’ve had that stop me from being mad at a significant other. They help me to cool off, and they might help you out too.

You still love each other

This is something we seem to forget when we are in a fight with our partners. Anger clouds our judgement and we may even think to ourselves I hate this person. However, I came across this video on youtube and it helped me to cool off my anger.

“We like because and we love despite.”

Remember that opinions are subjective

This is something that I figured after letting the whole thing go. Actually, what helped is my current read. It is called The Obstacle is The Way by Ryan Holiday.

‘”The phrase ‘This happened and it is bad’ is actually two impressions. The first—’This happened’—is objective. The second—’it is bad’—is subjective.”

Opinions are subjective. If you have differing opinions with your partner, it’s alright. You can both have different opinions. No one’s in better than the other’s, and no one has to convert the other to their opinion.

No one is perfect

Let’s be honest: We love people for who they are, not what they do. You don’t love someone because they make you laugh. Because if they don’t make you laugh anymore, you don’t love them? I don’t think that’s love. Your partner doesn’t love you because you are beautiful. What happens when you grow old? They stop loving you? That wouldn’t be right, because old people deserve love too.

That brings me to my point: No one is going to be the perfect person. Everyone has some bad sides to them. If it’s nothing extreme, you can let it slide and move on in a relationship.

These are a few of the things that help me to stop being mad at a significant other. I hope they help you too. Please consider leaving a comment in the comments section below. It really makes my day.