Self hatred is a very toxic trait and can lead to problems such as depression, difficulty creating and maintaining relationships, social awkwardness and anxiety, alcohol and drug dependency, poor decision making and other dangerous outcomes.
Hating yourself makes it hard for you to thrive in an already challenging world.
Self hatred is caused by many issues that we need to resolve. Past decisions and mistakes, toxic people, poor self esteem, all lead to us hating ourselves. Hating yourself causes negative neural pathways in your brain. You keep making these pathways deeper by hating yourself all the time.
Fortunately, you can reverse these adverse effects. In this article, I present you with 10 neat tips to help you get on your way to stop hating yourself. They will help you to form a more positive relationship with yourself.
How to Stop Hating Yourself
Below are 10 ways to teach you how to stop hating yourself:
1 | Find out who you are
Who are you as a person? Why is it that you hate yourself so? You need to delve deeper in order to find out who you are and why you act this way. This will help you to have inner dialogues with yourself in order to heal the emotional trauma that has caused you to hate yourself.
2 | Be proud of your achievements
A lot of the time, people are completely blind to the fact they are pretty cool. You think you suck and there’s nothing to your name, but you are just being toxic to yourself. Learn to value your talents, achievements and abilities. You earned them, so you might as well let them make you feel good about yourself. Stop downgrading your achievements. Stop thinking you are a loser. You really aren’t.
3 | Respect your emotions but think with your brain
One of our biggest causes of emotional strain is worrying too much about our feelings. Feelings are a result of hormones produced in the body due to some kind of stimulus. Let go of your feelings and think rationally. Use logic and understanding in all situations. This will help you to stop hating yourself, because hate too is an emotion.
4 | Counter negativity with positivity
“Be positive.” How many times have you heard this phrase and groaned out loud? Positivity costs you nothing and yet it will bring you a boat load of benefits. Negativity creates pathways in the brain that affect our mental health. Self hatred is very toxic and can cause depression. On the other hand, having positive thoughts makes you lighter and happier.
5 | Let go of your past mistakes
Thinking of yourself as disgusting because of your past mistakes can weigh you down with negativity. When I decided to stop thinking of myself as disgusting, I felt a weight being lifted off me. I never felt the same way again. It’s easy to hate yourself for past decisions, but that’s in the past. Learn to move on and focus on bettering yourself.
6 | Quit comparing yourself to others
Comparison is the thief of joy. It will always seem like people have it better than us. You have to believe that every one of us has our own part to play in this world. Stop comparing yourself to others; especially on social media. Social media is a heavily edited image of the best parts of someone’s life. It’s not an accurate measure of somebody’s life. Be grateful for your life and you won’t have to think about other’s too much.
7 | Spend time with positive people
Your self loathing may be as a result of the kind of people you keep close to you. Toxic friends can make you feel terrible about yourself. It’s time you cut out toxic people from your life and look for more positive people. People with good self confidence and self worth are capable of transforming you into a better version of yourself.
8 | Be nice to yourself
Treat yourself like a friend. If your friend were to say degrading and self deprecating comments about themselves, you would step right in and correct them. Start doing this on yourself. Learn to love yourself because you are the most important person in your life. Your relationship with yourself affects your entire mindset. If you learn to be more loving towards yourself, you will begin to be more positive and happier.
9 | Celebrate your triumphs
Blow your victories out of proportion. Celebrate your triumphs and reward yourself. Tell yourself how proud you are. Set goals, crush them, and congratulate yourself. This will help you to have more faith in yourself to keep achieving your goals. Don’t downplay your achievements, but take time to celebrate them. This will make you stop hating yourself.
10 | Be kind to others
Being kind to others will help you feel better about yourself. If you can’t find anything nice about yourself, being kind will give you motivation. It’s always good to be nice to strangers. It’s easy to make a stranger’s day by giving them a smile.
Turn the Hate into Love
One of the things that helped me the most in my journey to self growth is turning hate to love and turning negativity to positivity. I know it sounds very cliché, but that’s only because it really works. Learn how to stop hating yourself—but start by learning how to love yourself first! If you want to learn more, check out why self love is so hard.
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