How to Stop Being Too Nice to Men

Honestly, it’s only lately that I’ve been embracing my femininity. A lot of women hate themselves. It’s because we have been conditioned by our childhood to feel this way. Another thing that we have been conditioned to do is to be nice to men.

It’s kind of a tragedy in the modern world that we have to be nice to men to avoid being hurt. This stems from deep conditioning that begins at an early age and goes on for long enough. In fact, we probably have memories of how when we are not nice to men, they treat us badly. This carries on to our adult lives and we fail to stand up to men who are mistreating us. Because now we know we won’t be taken seriously.

I find one thing really funny: A man will find no problem being absolutely horrendous to woman who he finds useless to him and his endeavors. Men will be evil to women just because they serve no purpose to them.

I only feel so passionately about this topic because I have been too nice to too many men who have taken advantage of me. I know what it’s like to be a kind, compassionate woman who is used and thrown aside by an uncaring man. I want to teach other women and girls how to stop being too nice to men before they have to learn it the hard way.

How to Stop Being Too Nice to Men

Let’s get into some issues to consider in order to stop being too nice to men:

Make eye contact and study their faces

Be careful of who’s asking for your help. If it’s a stranger, make sure you study their face long enough so that you can potentially identify a criminal from their mugshot if it comes to that. Too many men get away with things because they couldn’t be identified. This is a safety tip for women. Be aware of your surroundings and all the people you pass by on the street.

Don’t help someone if it’s draining you

I have a bad habit of knee-jerk reactions to anyone in need. I will give away things that I am in dire need of, just because somebody asked. They don’t even have to cajole or sway me. I’ll do it in a heartbeat. My mouth betrays my mind. I say yes before I can think. I have to train myself not to say yes without thinking things through first

They won’t die if you don’t help them

Let’s face it—nobody is going to die if you don’t help them. In fact, maybe they don’t even need your help. Maybe they just want something of low priority on their list. They are probably just asking to make their lives a tiny bit more comfortable. Instead, you give away your very lifeline. If a person truly needed something, they would have planned ahead and had it with them at any one moment in time.  

Learn to walk away

Some men can be very persuasive and insistent. In cases like these, excuse yourself and put a huge distance between the two of you. It sucks that you have to go out of your way (literally) to escape someone who can’t take a simple No. However, this is the life we live in.

The Takeaway

As women, we have to stop accommodating men all the time. Learn how to stop being too nice to your boyfriend. Free yourself from childhood dysfunctions. Liberate yourself from limiting beliefs. Learn to empower yourself and walk confidently towards your dreams.