Do you ever find yourself being clingy to your partner in a relationship? You stop and wonder why you’re acting like a 5-year-old with abandonment issues. You cringe in embarrassment. If this is you, congrats! At least you are aware of what you’re doing and you have the motivation to do better.
Being clingy isn’t uncommon in the beginning stages of a relationship. In fact, it’s cute and cuddly. However, it can get really annoying when it’s finally time to get some real work done. How do you move on from being clingy and dragging your partner down? Sometimes your partner can even begin to loathe your controlling behavior that comes with being clingy.
Therefore, in this post, I am going to tackle some tried and tested methods on how to stop being clingy in a relationship. I know more than most people how much it takes to stop being a leech or like a parasite clutching onto its host. Trust me, if I can do it, so can you.
How to Stop Being Clingy in a Relationship
Let’s get into some much-needed advice on how to stop being clingy in a relationship:
1 | Work on growing yourself
I know, I know. You can’t do anything because you’re enamored and can’t stop thinking about them. Well, maybe you just aren’t doing the right things. Browsing through Instagram? That’s not going to be very helpful. Refreshing your messages to see if they texted? Counter-productive.
Get off your butt and begin to create wonderful things. I love to write whenever I miss someone too much. Do things that make you forget about everything (or everyone) else. Focus on creating art. This will allow you to have unwavering focus and attention on that one task. In fact, after you finish the task, you will feel so productive and fulfilled.
2 | You are not their full-time job
Forget thinking that you are your partner’s full-time job. Save yourself the heartache by understanding that you’re pretty much a part-time job, or a leisure activity. It’s sound harsh, I know, but nobody is going to be thinking about you the entire time. Yep, I also know that even though they aren’t thinking of you, you are thinking about them the entire time. That’s why you need to refer to #5 for further advice.
3 | Stop sharing unnecessary feelings
Thinking about writing a book on how much love you have for them? Stop. Nobody is writing ANYBODY ANY books. I’m the type of person who missed the memo that wearing your heart on your sleeve is no longer cool. There’s a reason why your heart is heavily guarded behind a whole rib cage. Stop giving too much love. Stop sharing about how their eyes make you feel like chocolate. Just stop. Nobody is telling you that, so why should you? In fact, even if they are, you shouldn’t be pressured into replying with an equally, if not more detailed explanation of why they are your best love story.
4 | Don’t text too much
Texting is the bane of my existence. 2 am texts? Uh uh. Don’t do it. You’ll end up sharing stupid things due to the lateness of the hour. Also, don’t text too much during the day. Random I-love-you’s because you saw a Tumblr post that said to let people know you love them or else they’ll die and you could never tell them that again? Stupid. Stick to a strict timetable. You can go minimal with only good morning’s and good night’s.
5 | Play equal
You want to learn how to stop being clingy in a relationship? Play equal. Don’t do for others what they aren’t doing for you. If you aren’t getting random texts saying I love you, then you shouldn’t be doing that either. In fact, you might actually be making things awkward for your partner. Give out only the amount of love you are receiving. That’s because at some point in the relationship, you will begin to become bitter about why your partner never matches up to your energy.
6 | Engage in solo activities
Do things on your own. Don’t become one of those people who does everything with their significant other. You are your own being. Let your partner be your part-time job. You are the priority here. Stop putting yourself in the back seat. Learn to engage in activities without your partner. This will give everybody the space they need.
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