In this journey towards self-betterment, we always try to find ways to fix our lives. What can we do to make life 1% better? We actively pursue our higher selves. In this post, I’ll exploring what it takes to fix your life, one rogue emotion at a time.
As is my nature, I’m always deep in thought and trying to find the meaning of life, or at least trying to assign meaning to it. I’m in a pretty cool stage in my personal development journey. I find it easy to deflect unnecessary emotions like depression, anger and guilt. I’ve learned how to restructure my thoughts and steer clear of negativity.
However, there is one thing that lingers on after all these months of trying to reach my best form. Why do I still get these kinds of thoughts? Why don’t they just stop all together? After all, I don’t even want them. I’m over my victim mentality stage. Those were the days where I got a sick pleasure off being a sad, suffering soul.
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Comparison is something that brings on most of our problems. Comparing yourself to others can cause you huge amounts of stress and depression. Wanting to be someone else is a real issue. Recently, I wrote a letter to my younger self: Don’t try to be something you’re not. Don’t compare yourself to others. Don’t want to be something that isn’t even physically possible. Let all that go.
However, it’s one thing to successfully deflect feelings of jealousy after comparing yourself to someone else—and it’s another to sit through that prickly feeling of absolute crap about why you can’t be them. This feeling of ‘crap’ has an actual term. Frustration. We get frustrated all the time, every day.
I know how to restructure my negative thoughts. But there’s always that thorny frustration that lingers for a while until it fades, or until I actively do something to mask its effect.
I get frustrated a lot. In fact, I think I’m a pretty frustrated person in general. I get frustrated over a lot of things. I get frustrated when things don’t go my way. I get frustrated when I mess up and let someone walk all over me. I get frustrated when I compare myself to other people. I get frustrated when I have to wait. The list is endless. (In fact, I feel my victim mentality emerging and waving at everyone right now.)
If you manage to completely get rid of those moments of everyday frustration, things might start looking a bit sunny. Why would you need to hold onto those thorny barbs of frustration clawing at your peace? I sure as hell do not need to be feeling any unnecessary and useless emotions.
I think that a lot of the time we aren’t conscious of the frustration that pops up nearly every day. We sit through it and feel it in its entirety. However, if you want to boost your personal growth, you need to start being conscious of this frustration, and you need to start deflecting it. Recognize it as a useless emotion. It weighs heavily on your mind, ruining everything. Let go of the frustration of never being able to be someone else. Let go of the frustration of waiting for someone. Let go of the frustration of never being enough.
We waste a lot of our cognitive energy by allowing frustration to hang out in our mind spaces. Let it go by recognizing it, setting an intention, and breathing deep. There’s no need to ruin a perfectly good day to a useless feeling. After all, it’s not a bad day, but tiny little bad things that happen over a perfectly great day.
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