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A narcissist doesn’t want you to know a lot of things. Let’s start from there. It has always been hard for me to imagine that there are people out there—seemingly normal people—who are deeply cunning and manipulative. Narcissists are evasive and secretive people in general.
The number one thing a narcissist doesn’t want you to know is what they are actually thinking in their scheming minds. Of course, I mean why not? They don’t want you to know their plans in the long con for creating a submissive and a servant out of you. They will be the sweetest loveliest character, for a very long time, until one day, boom, you are unexplainably in love with a monster. Take heart though, you aren’t doomed yet because narcissists show very many red flags, and it’s up to you to show some boundaries and kick them out of your life.
A narcissist doesn’t want you to know that they chose you for a specific reason: You were easy. Empathic and codependent-type personalities attract narcissists more than any other personality type. These people can come with a weak sense of sense, little to no self-esteem, self-respect, or any sense of entitlement. A complete lack of boundaries? Perfect victim for a narcissist. A narcissist will scout out the person who looks like a kind, nurturing soul. I kid you not, narcissists actually go hunting for a victim, and like a hunter, they know how to stalk their prey.
A narcissist doesn’t want you to know how strong you can be, and how flimsy their manipulation actually is. Narcissists can start smear campaigns against you. Tarnishing your name to friends and family. The number one way to avoid entertaining a narcissist is to refuse to bite into their bait. Narcissists are victims who are capable of getting a perverse pleasure from being a pathetic victim to others. They want you to react so that they can further suck their narcissistic supply from you.
The more you try to expose the narcissist, the worse things get. Remember that the narcissist has already established themselves as the model citizen, a perfect gentleman, to even your granny. People just love trusting narcissists. They will hate you for trying to ruin the image they have in their heads of an angelic human.
Narcissistic Abuse Prevention and Recovery
Narcissists are out there right now, stalking for prey. The only way to ward off a narcissist is to have a strong sense of self. If you value yourself enough to be ready to kick someone out of your life after just ONE red flag, you have won. A lot of us don’t have a sense of self. We don’t place any importance in our lives. We don’t like being selfish by being nice to ourselves. We don’t like being responsible for treating ourselves like we actually matter.
We hate ourselves. Our parents make us feel unworthy. Our childhood programming has made us loathe our very existence, and we find no joy in who we are as individuals. We don’t want to protect ourselves. We don’t want to think of ourselves as special. We don’t appreciate the gift of life.
A lot of us are adults with child mindsets. These are mindsets that our child-brains created for us. They might have served us as children, but as adults we have a responsibility to create some new mindsets to help us learn how to enjoy life better. Take a chance and start reconstructing the way you think. You can learn to value your existence. Practice positive self-talk and try to view yourself as a prize specimen. It can be hard, but that’s only because you are hard-wired to think the opposite. Take a chance, and retrain your mind. Replace your childhood mentalities with some new and improved adult versions.
Check out my new e-book on narcissism: Click Here
While you’re here, check out these articles on narcissism:
- How to Win an Argument With a Narcissist
- How to Avoid a Narcissist’s Trap
- How to Set Boundaries With a Narcissist
- 6 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No-Contact
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