You’re thinking about changing your life by accepting yourself more. You never tried before because it seemed so hard. There are always imaginary barriers holding you back from unleashing your true self.
Unconditional self love brings out your true shine. It helps you to achieve your maximum potential.
If self love has many obvious benefits, why is it so hard to achieve? Most of the time, people are held back by themselves; their mindsets and attitudes. We have to recognize and dissect these tendencies. We need to work on them and bust them.
Importance of Self Love
Finding, accepting, and loving yourself is the best thing you can do for your psychological development. When you love yourself, you understand yourself. And when you understand yourself, you’ll find it easier to go after what you want. You’ll also be able to handle emotionally taxing situations.
Self love makes life much more fulfilling. People who have self love are able to have lives rich in experience. They end up juicing more out of life. We see people in real life and online who have self love. I’m sure you want to be just like them. You just need to let go of what’s holding you back and learn to love yourself.
5 Reasons Why Self Love is So Hard
Here are my 5 takes on why self love is so hard:
1 | You don’t see yourself like other people do
We are our harshest critics. We focus on our tiniest flaws and scrutinize them to no end. Yet on the other hand, we don’t judge other people half as hard as we do ourselves. In fact, we love other people more than we love ourselves. Think about someone you hold in high regard. They have certain qualities you love about them. People think about you that way, too. Random people on the street love your hair. You need to love your plus points in abundance. You need to appreciate them the way you appreciate that stranger’s eyes on the train.
2 | You’re too tough on yourself
We want to push ourselves and keep doing better and better. I get it. But sometimes it’s not even about being the best. You just keep beating yourself about your mistakes for no reason. You need to learn to recognize when you are being overly hard on yourself. Don’t be too tough on yourself for your failures. In fact, don’t call them failures. You have to keep on trying. Keep getting up, learn from your mistakes and apply better tactics.
3 | You like being negative/ You’re used to being negative
This is a bitter pill to swallow, but maybe you like being negative all the time. What’s the point in that? It only makes you feel bad inside. On the other hand, being positive makes your life way better. You get to be calm and rational during times of duress, rather than feeling anxious and helpless. Recognize when you’re being negative for the sake of being negative. Stop yourself. You shouldn’t be negative. Make it forbidden to so much as think anything negative.
4 | Society puts our bodies on the spotlight
Appearances don’t matter. Period. Mainstream media has left us feeling overly self-conscious about the way we look but guess what? There are other things to a person than their looks. We find confident people very attractive, even when they might not be the prettiest in the room. That’s not all. Everyone has their own strengths that help to contribute to the world. By all means work on your body, but accept yourself the way you are. Life is too short to waste perfectly good opportunities over the way you were created.
5 | We care too much about the wrong things
One of the ways we do this is by focusing on our flaws. At some point after years of trying to fix your flaws, you’re going to have to accept that some of your flaws are not going to leave. Accept them as a part of yourself. Accept that they are probably not as life-threatening as you make them out to be. Stop focusing on the tragedy of your flaws and instead celebrate and develop your strengths further.
Self Love is Achievable
At the beginning of this article we talk about how hard self love is. However, it is very achievable. You can achieve it. Anyone can. You need to put away any limiting mentalities you have and accept yourself. Push yourself to be the best you ever. That way, self love won’t be so hard.
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