Do Narcissists Feel Sorry for Themselves?

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In this article, I’m going to explore whether or not narcissists feel sorry for themselves. If you have a narcissist in your life, you want to know all about them. Do they feel sorry for themselves? Do narcissists cry? These are all valid questions that need to be answered to learn the meaning of narcissism.

As always, remember that there is a difference between someone obsessed with taking selfies, and someone who has a personality disorder called Narcissistic Personality Disorder or NPD. Narcissists are truly a unique branch of humans out there. They are not psychopaths, although they may act like it.

Characteristics of Narcissists

Before answering the question: Do narcissists feel sorry for themselves, let’s explore some traits of a narcissist. This will allow you to understand exactly why they would feel sorry for themselves or not.

A narcissist will lure in an unsuspecting soul to fill their need for validation and praise. All narcissists are empty without a victim to manipulate into giving them validation. Validation doesn’t even have to be in the form of spoken affirmations. Even just having someone to cook and clean for them for free is enough validation for them. (Not saying everyone who cooks and cleans for free is being manipulated by a narcissist.)

A narcissist practices a lot of belittling and demeaning behavior. And they do so without remorse. These tiny aggressions may even be confusing – are you making fun of me, or just being funny? Are you belittling me or praising me? They practice a lot of negging. Negging means complimenting someone with an underhanded insult so you never know where you stand.

It goes without saying that a narcissist will always put themselves above another person. While this is actually healthy and a sign of healthy boundaries in normal people, it is twisted for narcissists. Narcissists only think of themselves and will never feel sorry for others. They show no remorse for hurting others. They bring others down to feel better about themselves. They like to invalidate others to fill that empty gaping hole inside them.

And that begs the question: Do narcissists actually feel sorry for themselves?

Do narcissists feel sorry for themselves?

Yes. Narcissists do feel sorry for themselves. The whole point of being a narcissist is to be self-obsessed. Everything you do is to further your personal cause. You do feel constantly sorry for yourself because you are so empty and cannot feel like a real human being. In fact, you should feel sorry for a narcissist because they are tortured humans. Of course, don’t go around going out of your way to be nice to someone who is a narcissist because they will ruin your life.

So, yes, narcissists feel sorry for themselves. They believe they deserve the best, and when they do not get it, they feel sorry for themselves. They feel anguished and vow to capture another unsuspecting prey that will be their servant and do their bidding with no reciprocation needed from the narcissist. In fact, narcissists come alive when they capture a new prey to play around with. It lights up their world and gives them a purpose, although they might seem like they are burdened with glorious purpose.

Yes I have been watching the new Loki TV show and I’m not quite sure if he is indeed a narcissist. I have heard him and some other people call him a narcissist, but I’m not sure if he is a real one. Sure, he has done some heinous things out of self-obsession. However, I’m not sure if the show is trying to redeem him, because I’m starting to feel sorry for him. Ah, well. This is how narcissists fool us.

Do narcissists cry?

I have covered this in full detail in my other post Do Narcissists Cry? However, the short answer is that they do. If they are crying in front of you, however, it is not genuine. Narcissists may cry when they feel sorry for themselves, but they would never let you catch them in the act. If a narcissist is crying in front of you, it is an act, a show – a way to trap you.

Narcissists will cry to fool you into thinking they are harmless. If you have previously mentioned you like an emotional partner, they will show you just that. They will cry during Titanic to make you fall for them more. Remember that everything a narcissist does in front of you is quite calculated – especially during the initial stages of meeting.

Of course, when a narcissist has you in a choke-hold, they will unleash their true colors and even perform their child-like antics in front of you. They will rage and emotionally or physically abuse their victims with no remorse. The sad part is, many people are in a trance and cannot remove themselves from this situation. They have been hypnotized by the narcissist.

Do narcissists feel regret?

One thing to note is that narcissists do feel most of the emotions that we do. It’s just that they feel them in a different way. They feel them for the wrong reasons. They feel them for selfish reasons. Do narcissist feel regret? Yes, they do. They will feel regret when you don’t fall for their manipulation tactics. A narcissist will wish they could have reeled you into their lives and made you their servant.

However, if you want to know if a narcissist can ever regret all their hurtful actions to you, then the answer is no. A narcissist will never regret their actions. They can never show genuine remorse or empathy for having hurt someone. Sure, they can pretend and act like it, but they can’t mean it. That would mean admitting fault. And as we know, narcissists think they are perfect.

You will have to watch out for narcissists pretending to feel regret and asking for forgiveness. Narcissists are master manipulators. They may kneel and cry and beg for you to take them back, especially if they know it is going to work. They will sob about how they have realized their past bad behavior and how they will never do it again.

Be aware that they will definitely start the pattern again. This time, they will break you down and keep you more trapped and isolated. So much so, that this time you will not have a chance to escape. They will hoover, silent treatment, word salad you back into submission.

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In Conclusion

In this post, I have touched on whether or not a narcissist feels sorry for themselves. Remember that narcissists can go through therapy if they really want to change. And one such narcissist confirmed that they do indeed feel sorry for themselves. Be aware though, that a narcissist will never feel regret for their previous hurtful actions. It’s all a sham!