Abusive men know how to hide their evil side. They know how to prepare to get with someone and gradually start abusing them. That’s why it’s tricky to spot an abusive man, especially in the early stages of a relationship. In this article, I want to help you to figure out how to recognize the signs of an abusive man.

Abusive men are most often manipulative. They are cunning predators. That’s why abuse happens. Because they know to bag the girl by acting like they are the perfect man. They know how to impress women and men, too.

In fact, abusive men target women with low self esteem, and appear like the knight in shining armor. That can explain why women decide to stay with an abuser. He makes you feel amazing, especially because you can’t imagine yourself or anyone else making you feel that way.

As time goes on, the abusive man has established his presence in your life. This is when the wolf sheds the sheep skin. That’s part of the plan. He begins to abuse you slowly and gradually, and all the while you are dismissing it as your over-imaginative mind.

You have options—stay or leave. Some women decide to stay with their abusers because they mean the whole world to them.

Humans are resilient creatures. We can pick ourselves up and start afresh. If your world crashes at your feet, you can still get back up and try again.

If you are facing abuse, please reach out and talk to someone. Nothing, and I mean nothing, can justify abuse.

We all walk into relationships to seek love, support, growth and development. We look for a great guy who understands you and can be your best friend. We look for people who we can vibe with. There are people like that out there. However, there are also abusive people out there.

Abuse can take many forms including physical and emotional. Physical abuse can be recognized well enough. It’s emotional abuse that’s hard to point out. That’s because it’s designed to fool us into believing that we are in a perfect relationship. Read on to learn how to recognize the signs of an abusive man.

How to recognize the signs of an abusive man

Here are 5 tips on how to recognize the signs of an abusive man:

1. Early commitment

A relationship with an abusive man is usually moving at a fast pace. Abusive men pull you in real quick with promises of love and happiness to impress you. All this happens at a suspiciously early stage of your relationship. Healthy relationships always begin with friendship. Maintaining a cautious countenance is important in identifying abusive and violent men in the initial stages of your relationship. It will help you to recognize the signs of an abusive man.

2. Possessiveness

Let’s face it—a little jealousy sounds cute at first. However, abusive men are overly possessive and get jealous over the smallest things. They can blame you for merely talking to other people. It doesn’t stop there; abusive men can get jealous when you take off time to spend with your friends and family. Abusive men want to be aware of your every move and where you go. Abusive men want to control you and cannot understand that you are an individual apart from him. Figure out how to recognize an abusive man by watching for possessive tendencies.

3. Isolation

Some people can get really evil. They can go so far as to bar communication with your own family and friends. They can take away your phone, or go through messages, reply to your personal messages and other alarming behaviors like this. They seek to isolate you from your loved ones. In the long run, it becomes difficult for you to turn to them. If you slowly (or not so slowly) push your friends away, you can find it hard to hit them up out of the blue to share your problems. Always maintain your relationships with your friends and family, because they can help you out in an abusive relationship.

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4. High expectations from you

An abusive man expects you to be exactly like the ideal woman he has created in his mind. Unfortunately, this ideal woman is expected to conform strictly to gender roles and provide for his every whim. Nobody is perfect. Abusive men fail to understand that. They get harsh and criticize you for not being perfect. In most cases, this causes you to feel like you have failed him.

5. Anger issues and mood swings

Abusive men have anger management issues more often than not. They have raging moods and can blame you for their anger. They can lash out on you and expect you to bare the brunt of their violent behaviors. They don’t have good coping mechanisms and resort to physical violence like hitting and smashing things.

You Don’t Deserve to be With an Abusive Man

In this article, I have mentioned some signs to help you to learn how to recognize the signs of an abusive man. Nobody deserves to suffer in a relationship with an abusive man. No one should be expected to “fix” such men. All we need are loving, caring relationships that provide happiness and growth. The moment you recognize red flags, you need to quit the relationship. You may think he is the only one for you but I promise; it’ better to be alone than with an abusive man. There are people who will treat you like a queen.

An abusive man may turn out to be a narcissist. I have had my own share of being abused by a narcissist, and would want nothing more than to help other victims. Here are posts to help you on your journey:

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