How to Trust Yourself More

In the world today, there is a lot of distrust, hate and disgust of our own selves. We try to seem like we have it all together on our social media. We post the best pictures and write self-love affirmations in the captions.

However, deep inside we absolutely loathe ourselves. One of the reasons why we have so much self-hate is because we don’t trust ourselves more. We ignore our inner feelings to listen to other’s advice. We only do things that we feel are acceptable in society. We don’t go through with our to-do lists and that causes us to lose faith in ourselves. We set goals and never reach them. These things make us feel like we can’t have any level of trust in ourselves.

What does it mean to trust yourself?

Trusting yourself means to be assured in what makes you you. These can include your personality, character traits, strengths, abilities, gifts and goals. Trusting yourself means relying on your own self all the time, and when it matters the most.

Most of us just rely on the people who we perceive as more important than us. These can be your parents, older siblings, teachers or bosses. We believe that they have more wisdom than us and can help us to live our ideal lives. Our parents teach us that we don’t have the ability to do what’s best for us.

Having no trust in yourself means that you only do what you think will sit right with other people. You keep seeking approval from others. You abandon what you really truly want in order to impress others. This in turn makes you trust yourself less and less. After all, how can you trust a person who doesn’t really care about your opinion and only tries to impress on-lookers? This is how we betray ourselves.

LEARNING HOW TO TRUST YOURSELF MORE NEEDS YOU TO TAKE A FEW STEPS BACK AND OBSERVE THE SELF

Learning how to trust yourself more means retracing your steps and understanding why you abandoned the self. This can be in the form of prioritizing other’s opinions above your own. It involves you not asking yourself what you want. This can really wound the inner child.

Without beating around the bush, let’s get into these tips on how to trust yourself more.

How to Trust Yourself More

1 | Promise yourself small things and see them through

The first method of how to trust yourself more is to slowly work up the energy. Start small. Set yourself goals to follow through. Write to-do lists. These will help you to build up that trust slowly but surely. Do this with an intention to build a level of trust and confidence within yourself. You should finally look to yourself for answers and opinions as opposed to other people.

2 | Develop the self –what do you do good

A lot of us are mindless zombies living aimlessly. Yeah, you have a job, you see yourself somewhere good in the next five years, and you know what you look like. But do you really know the intricacies of your own mind? Do you see yourself for who you actually are? Do you talk to yourself?

A lot of us think we know ourselves because we absolutely loathe and hate the inner workings of our minds. This type of thinking is actually a cognitive distortion of the mind. No human should think ill of their self. We should all live with positive and rational cognitive thinking patterns.

Take a chance and be positive to yourself. Encourage instead of berating. Love instead of hate.

3 | Take responsibility in order to trust yourself more

Taking responsibility for the results of your actions is important for learning how to trust yourself more. Most of the time we hate being responsible for the things we do. In fact, we hate and loathe ourselves more. We hate the decisions we take on our own because we always listen to the instructions of others. This means we give others more power over our own lives. The truth is, we always have the power over letting ourselves down. It’s better to take responsibility of letting yourself down than allowing others control over important aspects of your life.

4 | You know what’s best for you (no one’s perspective is the same)

Everyone experiences life in their own way. Everyone has their own perspectives on life. Think of it like a tinted glass. A lot of us view life through a negative and pessimistic point of view. However, even within this negative way of thinking, no one thinks exactly the same way. What do I mean here? We get to make decisions based on our own perspectives of our lives. Asking for opinions from others is not a bad thing. You just have to weigh them in and see all the perspectives before going on to make your final decision. You have to also remember that there are many answers out there. You just have to go with the answer that YOU as the sole owner and controller of your life think is best for you. 

5 | Develop your values to trust yourself more

Atheists don’t follow any commandments from religions. However, they do develop a code of conduct to live by peacefully. They work on principles of humanity and ethics. They do it because they are human, and not because a holy book tells them to. Borrowing from this, you should create your own code of conduct. If you lack integrity in your life, it can affect the authenticity with which you view yourself. Develop your own values and stick by them. This can include promising to get rid of any bad vices or addictions you may be having. We use religion as a crutch, but if you didn’t have to obey any commandments, would that mean you would be a criminal? We need to be able to trust ourselves as humans, and not because we are afraid of being smote to hell. This can really help to boost your trust in yourself.

6 | Don’t be too hard on yourself

When you try to trust yourself more, there are chances that you’ll fail sometimes. My advice is to go slow and easy. Don’t jump into setting goals for trusting yourself that you can’t achieve realistically. Wean yourself off your bad habits like lying. Change probably doesn’t happen in one go, but consistently over time. Give yourself small chewable tasks. I always find that starting small, increasing your strength, then moving further gives you the bets results.

The Takeaway

Learning how to trust yourself more is a great personal development tool. It helps you to boost your self-confidence too. This is all in preparation for climbing higher and higher cognitive heights. We need to gain control over our emotions, and one of the ways to do this is to trust yourself more. Human minds are perfectly capable of handling challenges of the world singularly and with ease. We don’t have to be imprisoned by our own toxic thoughts. The human mind is capable of making the best out of bad situations. I think the best personal growth is learning to be your own best friend.

For additional posts to learn to trust yourself more:

• How to Be Confident in Yourself
• How to Stop Hating Yourself
• How to Love Yourself First
• How to Learn to Love Yourself
• How to Forgive Yourself for Past Mistakes
• How to Feel Better On a Bad Day
• How to Develop Good Habits
• How to Get Rid of Anxiety in the Long Run